Alright peeps. Time for a pep talk, and this isn’t one of
those fitness or motivational health topics so listen up. This is about you and
getting out of Loserville. Yep, I said it. I’ve been there, we’ve all been
there. Forgive yourself, I did.
We literally come into this world perfect, and then we spend
the rest of our lives investing everything we have believing we are not good
enough. Ridiculous, right?! But it’s true. Fear, failure, judgment, criticism ,
you name it, we are affected by it to the point where it determines our value,
our worth. When we are happy and all in love with OURSELVES, we won’t be
bothered with the BS. OR anyone else’s at that matter. So it’s time to win
yourself over, and I’m gonna help you do that. So here goes:
1.
Appreciate yourself:: I don’t know if anyone’s told
you this recently, but you’re kind of big deal. Yes you! There is no one like
you, do you realize that? No one who can do that “thing,” yeah that thing like
you can. You’re in there, I know you
are. You might have to find yourself buried under piles of low blows, failures,
etc, but you’re in there. So dust off, and join the party. You are the only one
there is, and will ever be. You rock, start showing it!
2.
Drown yourself in affirmations:: oh yeah, I’m
going there. If anyone thinks this is crazy, it’s me. Trust me though, it
works. Let’s practice. First you want figure out which affirmations your need
to hear the most and repeat them all day long to yourself. Write them on post
it notes, whatever you have to do, just do it. Here are some examples.
a.
My heart is open, love pours in and out.
b.
Dayyyyummn I look good today.
c.
I am smart, I am beautiful.
d.
I deserve to LIVE a good life.
Okay , you get the picture. If
these are dumb, find ones that you really do need to hear, and really FEEL it. You can’t just be spit
balling anything , it’s gotta be there, and you gotta believe it.
3.
Do things you love:: Look at your life and see
where you are disappointing yourself. Do
you catch yourself saying, “ Man, I can’t remember the last time I did that.” ß uhm hello! Go do that
again! MAKE TIME. We are all busy, but it’s the people who make time enjoying
their lives that actually ENJOY THEIR
LIVES! Get over yourself. You can make time! OH, and a huge one. Put your needs
first. Yeah I know, the person you are being a slave for might not understand,
but they will still love you, I promise. You are not selfish for doing that. I
still work on this EVERYDAY. Start taking care of yourself like you are the
most awesome person you’ve ever met!
4.
Find a replacement :: Yep , crucial. If you look
in the mirror and your first thought is “YIKES”, make a conscious effort to
walk by again and say, “what up pretty lady!” Don’t spend your life clinging to
the insulting decisions you make about yourself. REPLACE THEM.
5.
DITCH THE SELF- DEPRECATING HUMOR:: I get it,
laugh at yourself. PLEASE LAUGH AT YOURSELF. If you take life too seriously, it’s
gonna be a long road to misery. But don’t make this a daily thing. You are
practically begging yourself to think you’re an idiot. Seemingly harmless
jokes, over time, turn into seriously destructive beliefs. Our beliefs become
our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our realities.
Helllo it’s not funny if you’re always knocking yourself about not getting a
date, WHEN YOU REALLY ARE NOT GETTING A DATE! You are literally patronizing
yourself because you are forcing a false illusion. StAAAHP the nonsense.
6.
Let the love in:: Yep, take compliments. Period.
The next time someone compliments you, just say THANK YOU, and stop countering
everything with a disclaimer. Got it? good.
7.
DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS:: I’ll use my
husband for this one. ( sorry babe). You know that feeling when you spend soooo
much time creating something awesome, and it really is awesome, only to find
out someone beat you to the punch and submitted it before you did. So the idea
feels like not yours right? Wrong. Comparison is the fastest way to take all
the fun out of life. Mason actually started questioning that his wasn’t as good.
DUDE, it was soooo awesome! The point is, it’s none of your business what
anyone else is doing, what matters is that you are enjoying yourself and you
are pleased with what you are creating. MY HUBBY ROCKS!
8.
FORGIVE YOURSELF: You’ve screwed up in the past,
who hasn’t? and you will screw up again in the future. You are not alone.
Understand this: Guilt, shame, and criticism are some of the most destructive
forces in your life, which is why forgiving yourself is one of the most
powerful. LEARN FROM IT, AND LET IT GO!
9.
LOVE YOURSELF: x100 because you are freaking aweeesome!
